One of the things I love most about Facebook is the comment section. I feel like if William Golding was to reboot Lord of the Flies, he’d go to the comments section on Facebook for insight into the modern persons persona.
The comments section on Facebook interests me, especially with articles – because you’re given the direct response of the reader to that work and for a writer that’s beyond valuable.
I usually don’t comment on articles, but I saw one article that someone had shared, asking what people thought about the subject matter.
The article was about the increasing rate of terminations to pregnancies, it especially focused on the termination of special needs pregnancies.
I have spoken once before about this subject – and for obvious reasons, it is going to be a subject that is challenging for me to discuss. However, I don’t want to talk about my beliefs today. I instead want to talk about a comment I read underneath the shared article.
It said “I don’t think I would be strong enough to raise a special needs child”
I got to thinking, ‘is this how most potential parents feel’ and I thought in case it was I would write this post. To tell you that you are in fact strong enough.
I have asked my parents a few times what it was like for them when I was diagnosed, they have always maintained that – although it was, of course, unexpected – they always embraced and accepted me as I was.
And because of this – I am the person I am today.
They’ve never stopped me from chasing opportunities or tried to fix me – and at 18, they remain encouraging of my dreams and they aid me every day, they do the same for my brother who can walk.
Yes they aid me in different ways than they would an able-bodied person, they do help me put my shoes on and they do carry my cup of tea and help me get places, but they also pick up my brother’s towel off the floor [sometimes], they make him dinner [sometimes] – No matter what kind of child you have, they’ll always need your help and no matter what ability your child has, I can be almost 100% positive when I say – you can face the challenges that life brings you, because your child and you will help one another.
To be a parent of any child – you don’t need to be a superhero. You don’t need to be strong enough, because enough has no measurement.
You are good enough and strong enough – to be a parent of any kind of child if you so choose.